So far, I’ve only told you about the mini breaks that we’ve been on that we’ve enjoyed. Ok, that makes sense, surely when you go with your spouse for a romantic weekend away, you expect you’re going to enjoy it. Nobody ever seems to share holiday snaps of themselves not having a good time, so really there’s a lot of expectation (maybe even pressure) to ensure that when you do go away, you enjoy it! Well – from what Andrew and I have experienced, that’s not always the case.
Who else gets that Monday morning feeling? Even if we love our jobs, there’s always at least a little part of us that longs for 5 more minutes, to stay tucked up in your pyjamas, or to just have one more day.
So that’s why I’ve decided to make Monday’s my ‘Marriage Motivation days’. A little something to pick us up when that Monday morning feeling comes over us in our own relationships – because it does from time to time – a little reminder of what you’re doing, why you’re doing it and what this love and marriage thing is all about.
To kick off the series I thought the above quote from Franklin P. Jones was a goody:
“Love doesn’t make the world go round, love makes the ride worthwhile.”
As much as it may feel like it in the dreamy beginnings of any relationship, Love isn’t (at least not practically) the be-all and end-all. You still need a roof over your head – you still need to eat and enjoy other basic functions, you still need to go to work and earn a living. But that beautiful, inexplicable emotion is what makes the mundane, the routine, the Monday morning feelings, all worthwhile.
If I’ve had a bad day at work, if we’re having financial problems, even if I’ve had a minor meltdown because there are a pile of dirty socks strewn over the bathroom floor – my husband is there, and that makes all the everyday niggles and mundane routines worth it. Him, our love and the lives we’ve created together are all worth it. Every single, Monday morning!
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Before our wedding last Christmas, we were looking for some old photographs from our Christmases past to hang on the tree that would be in our wedding reception. One Sunday afternoon, Andy and I sat with boxes full of my childhood memories, and an old chest full of his, and we whiled away the whole afternoon sifting through our old family photographs. That was one of my all time favourite afternoons. As simple as it sounds.
Something which I confess often gets overlooked when Andrew and I are planning our romantic adventures is taking stock of what’s around us, and appreciating the beauty of our own home town. Too often we seek out new and exciting places to visit without properly experiencing the best of what our own surroundings have to offer. After all, this is the place we choose to call home, so why don’t we take more advantage of it?
Well this year one of our missions is to try to attend more local events, enjoy simple dates out in our own town, making memories that we can be reminded of every time we step outside. This weekend offered up the perfect opportunity to do just that, with the annual Catch the Wind Kite Festival in our neighbouring seaside town, Morecambe.
“There’s no good reason not to…” This is Andy’s philosophy for most things; one which I have quickly come to believe in myself. If you can’t find a good enough reason not to do something, then just do it! With this kind of mindset, we wind up doing some of the most random, fun things. And our latest date night was no exception.
Remember when you were a kid, the enjoyment you would get from huddling underneath a table and draping a sheet over it – adding in some fairy lights and snuggling up with your teddy bears and a book? Well this weekend, I decided to recreate it with my husband – this time without the teddy bears! I decided to make an in-house cinema, with blankets, cushions, fairy lights and classic cinema grub.
It’s been almost 6 months since I walked down the aisle to the man of my dreams and promised to live my happily ever after with him. So what of that first 6 months of marital bliss? A bubble of rosey, hazy perfection, right? Well… Here’s my brutally honest account of the first 6 months of marriage…
A few months ago I created a list of date night ideas for me and my husband. I promised I’d report back on all of the best ones and to kick us off I’m starting with something simple: a Make Your Own Pizza At Home night…
There’s something about kneading your own dough, getting covered in flour and listening to the calming rhythms of Italian music that’s incredibly romantic. The sun shining through into the kitchen whilst doing so was a bonus!
This Valentines Day just gone I was trying to rack my brains for the perfect gift for my husband. Just two months into our marriage and still riding the high of our honeymoon, it didn’t seem right that we should single out one day to remind ourselves that we love each other. Not to mention my budget was completely shot having just gone through a Christmas wedding and a honeymoon in New York!
So instead, I came up with a year of dates. I compiled a list of romantic date ideas for us to enjoy so we could celebrate all year round! Some are things we can do spur of the moment, some will need more planning. Some are cheap or even free, some will need a bit more budget.